She’s going… going… & now she’s gone! Was it my fault?

You’re a man & there you are doing your very best to please your woman…

yet she seems to be drawing away with each passing day.

You’ve bought her gifts;

taken her out, changed your wardrobe, created more time for her…

you’ve even tried to talk to her about the situation…

But, the harder you try, the faster the ship seems to be sinking…

So what’s the problem really?

Let’s look at some pointers here because a problem understood is half solved…

Assumptions aside…

Many women make the mistake of thinking that the guy should know everything because… hey!

He’s the guy right?

Very, very wrong…

Communication in the relationship is key! And not just the ‘emotional sign’ language that women use! There are women who surprise me when they talk of the guy having to know what they feel by instincts…

Okay, even if it happens, what makes them think that time doesn’t count? What makes these women think that the guy doesn’t need time to understand them?

These women go to the extent of destroying the guy’s reputation by gossiping to their clique based on their presumptions. Such women are the cradle of immaturity because they’re most likely drama queens that just love drama…

Just plain Rebellion!

Many women deny that they’re feminists but what if her friend is one? What kind of friends does she keep? Because our personality attributes are closely related to the kind of friends we keep! What kind of advice do her friends give her? Your man is a dog? Or that men are plain unfaithful!

Never ever as a man blame yourself for presumptions based on other men. In fact, your lady should realize that you’re responsible for your actions… in any case, you can’t take the blame of the rapist on the street simply on the basis that you’re a man…

Collective responsibility does have limits!

Does she have a plan B?

The modern day woman is so liberated that she’s bought into the lie that she has the right to cheat on her husband without accountability!

This woman then tells you that she’s meeting her friends on an escalating trend, or abruptly gets a series of new hobbies without informing you, or changes her wardrobe into more sexy lingerie without any increase in sexual activity within the confines of your relationship!

Then that should really raise eyebrows!

 She might be plain immature…

What of the possibility of harboring a drama queen? When I wrote,She’s sexy…so what? , I spoke strongly against dating insecure women that are just plain attention seekers.

So it’s your responsibility as a man to look out for the things she does to shift blame to you…. Like making you angry then accusing you of not giving her enough attention because you’re too busy at work!

Or maybe… just maybe… it wasn’t mean’t to be…

Listen my friend, you’re not superman & you can’t force a relationship to work.

You’ve got to learn to let go… you might end up getting more hurt if you continue like this.

Letting go & holding on are aspects that need courage in equal measure!

If she comes back… good for you; she may have just needed some breathing space.

But if it doesn’t work, Man up & move on…

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