Personified Mindset Weapons against Porn addiction.|

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After getting massive response from my previous article; ‘The ‘innocent’ appetizers of porn addiction’ ,I’ve felt the urge to soldier on & address this issue in numeous articles to come. Many articles on the web are unreliable & dishonest. Infact, if you google for articles in regards to porn addiction on the web, most ‘solvers’ aren’t ‘honest enough’ to admit that they’re going through the same problem.

Speaking of problems, it has now emerged that we have ladies in the house that are hooked onto the vice. So what can I say except ‘Welcome to the porn rehab club ladies’. Which means that from now on, all my ‘porn’ articles will not be gender biased.

As I’ve always hinted, porn has been a real problem in my life & one major key to overcoming it has been to share it on my blog & with my buddies on the ground. When I share, I breathe a sigh of relief & feel like a certain heaviness in my chest has been let loose. Then with nothing to hide, I gain the courage to fight.

So today, I want to share some mindset strategies I’ve learn’t to use in curbing this vice!

1)These porn actors are not gods. Infact, they’re as human in flesh, spirit & soul as we’re!
Yes my friends. We focus too much on these porn actors & actresses that we forget ourselves. Because we’re amazed by their impressive performance & bodies such that we do a comparative analysis on ourselves using them as standards of quality.

Thus, for instance if you’re a guy, you wish you had those abs/that chest/ those thighs for you to be perceived as that stud that can satisfy your lady.
And if you’re a lady, you may feel inadequate maybe because you think you’re overweight or slim or you don’t have those hips… etc

Now here’s the deal bretheren. Those porn actors & actresses are as human as we are… you have the complete package that they have so never feel inadequate.
Infact, the next time you feel inadequate because you don’t look this way or that way, stand in the mirror, flex those arms, fake those abs & remind yourself that you’re no less of a man than they’re.

As for the ladies, wear that sexy lingerie & compliment the woman in the mirror for that exquisite, natural & authentic body she has. Then remind yourself that you’re unique & you were packaged for a unique spouse.
Simply put, learn to compliment yourself by doing a spotcheck on yourself & appreciating yourself.

Everyone is a unique package; so unique by the way that we’re only mean’t for one lover & one lover only. Your body is as unique as your soul, mind, spirit & personality.
So stop underestimating & demeaning by taking note of the strengths you have!

2)You’ve got a life… deal with it!

Why does one feel ashamed after watching porn? It’s because our minds keep on reminding us to get a life! I mean, do you know how many man-hours are wasted (worldwide) for watching a 25 min clip over & over again? That’s millions of man-hours of precious energy & attention daily!

Ladies & gentlemen, our time & energy is way too precious to waste on watching two ordinary human beings having sex. That’s like an iota fraction of 7 BILLION inhabitants of planet earth.

I mean, we make them celebrities simply because they can have sex; but guess what? I can have sex too & applaud myself like a celebrity! The problem is that we let them get to our heads. Then we end up unconciously immitating them when it comes to handling the opposite sex. We become spiteful, disrespectful, proud & demeaning.

So one wonders, did the world become a better place when they showed off their naked bodies? Ofcourse not! Infact, they’ve made matters worse! So why should we give them our precious money, energy & attention? They have their lives to live & we also have lives to live!

If they want to mess their lives, let them suit themselves! So thump your chest. & say;
I DON’T CARE BECAUSE I HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO!  

3)Reality Vs. Mirage
Here’s the deal, sex was mean’t to build relationships & to add spice to them. It’s a matter of purity & purity begins in the mind. It’s mean’t to be private, confidential intimate & refreshing. But porn dirtifies sex; making it look like an activity only mean’t for promiscuity.

Yet one wonders, how can porn improve my sex life if promiscuity,indecency & disrespect are its foundations?
Meaning that by watching these porn clips, we’re letting these porn actors & actresses dirtify our sexual love & affection… & guess what?

THEY DON’T REALLY CARE ABOUT US!

And you know why? Because all they want is our money. They do’nt care about you, nor do they know you, neither are they in a relationship with you! So my question is:
~Why immitate them if they make you feel dirty?
~If they don’t care, do you wanna be like them?
~Why be their zombie?
~Why put your guard down to invaders of your privacy?
~Why give attention to people who do not acknowlegde the aftermath effects of their dirty deeds?
~What business do you have with people who don’t care about their lives? Yet you still care about yours?
~Do they share the shame, guilt & pain feeling used & abused in the end?

Then why should we continue to open our eyes & ears to these people that live like animals? These promiscuous beasts don’t feel ashamed for having had sex with 50-100 different people! Infact, they brag about it;from threesomes, to orgies to homosexuality & lesbianism! They’re just a bunch of rich male & female whores who get income from our hard earned cash!

I’m sure that some of these actors & actresses are parents! How do their kids feel when they find out that mommy’s orgy is strewn all over the internet? How would you feel if you were in the shoes of such kids?

They must be having broken marriages.  Or to make matters worse, how would you feel if you found out that the love of your life was an actress in numerous orgies (of 4 or so guys at the same time?)

So once again, please remind me how porn makes couple’s lives better? Quite frankly, that’s a mirage… 

Let’s be real & focus on the lives of these porn celebrities! Behind those faked happy faces are souls suffering from shame & guilt on the inside, with their pain having been numbed by experience & the money that comes with it… (to be continued)

Kiruai Dennis is the author of “Man Up Or the Women Will” which is currently available on Amazon. Terms & Conditions Apply…

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