Having been raised as the only son in the family with two sisters, I practically had to learn to deal with issues on my own.
See, there was this imbalanced sibling rivalry that was manifested in the way I dealt with confrontations within the family. If either of my sisters had an arguement, they had each other to console whereas if I had an argument, I would have to deal with the repercussions on my own.
Which basically means that I’ve practically been an introvert throughout my life. Yet, I’ve never really taken time to think about how this had affected my attitude towards teamwork. But first,
1)Where did I get this ‘Introvert‘ label from?
About 2 weeks ago on a Saturday afternoon, as I took a stroll on the campus streets, I met Nandwa, a fellow undergraduate in the School of Economics.
She informed me of a teambuilding session that our school year was holding at the field.
Though unprepared, I felt the urge to witness the action. And that’s when I met another fellow undergraduate named Sheila.
We had never talked for the last three years except for a few pleasantries here & there. However, she surprised me with her perception of me. She claimed that I was that ‘Army of One‘ kinda guy that wasn’t quite social with fellow undergraduates.
And after giving her the sibling rivalry story I had given you earlier, she labelled me an introvert. But I still had a case to argue…
2)The Thin line between honesty & too much honesty.
Sheila was against the idea that being an introvert had its positive side. A point that I strongly challenged.
I informed her of a very weird situation that took place in high school. My parents always insisted that I be very honest with them.
At first, I was skeptical about sharing a certain issue but later on, I took courage & asked them for a brief session to discuss a ‘personal matter’.
The first sentence that came out of my mouth sent shock waves down their spines, leaving them dumbfounded. It was a confession that involved me being a porn addict for the last couple of years under their very noses.
The fact that I had put it so blatantly made me look like that peculiar son that wasn’t afraid of his parents anymore, considering the ‘freaky’ information he had shared.
Eventually, my parents played the ‘we weren’t prepared for this’ & ‘we shall consult & get back to you’ cards.
This happened 6yrs ago.
And that was the last time porn was ever a topic of discussion. Since then, they’ve never shown any urge to be honest with me again because they must have realized that voluntary, uncoerced honesty would do.
Sheila was also dumbfounded by my revelation, though she tried as much as possible to hide it.
Anyhow, she argued that being an introvert must have largely contributed to my snobbish behaviour. I wasn’t really surprised by this accusation since it had been constantly used against me several times in the past.
She claimed that I had to learn to be more social with fellow students by striking a balance between being an introvert & an extrovert. However, being in either of the two extreems had its repercussions.
And I had to start this task by joining the boys in playing football, to which I gladly obliged.
Though on Monday, I had pain all over my body after being severely injured by a teammate.
And as we all know, one can’t share body pain as a team. Which mean’t that nature necessitated me to be an introvert once again…
Kiruai Dennis is a Kenyan Blogger.
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