10 reasons why Feminism should be banned! (Part 1)


I’m going to be brief, precise & straight to the point here because this article is result oriented; & by that I mean RESULTS ON THE GROUND. See, it doesn’t matter whether the government pledged to create a million jobs, so long as it creates only a thousand, then those are the results people will focus on!
Because in the end, only a thousand people will be employed & not what the pledge dictated!
So let no feminist out there come to educate me about the initial purpose of feminism… I already know the details & quite frankly, they’re outdated as depicted by the results on the ground such as:

1)Escalation in gender polarisation;

Behind all the public smiles, hugs & handshakes are men & women that secretly hate each other. Marriages are on a downward spiral as divorce & infidelity thrives; why? Because marriage is a symbol of gender peace & harmony whereas divorce & infidelity are mutual symbols of gender anarchy & war. And I do hope that you’re taking keen note of the words SECRET HATRED; meaning concealed/hidden/camouflaged.

Results on the ground: Self denial, Escalating distrust in dates, relationships & marriage & Pessimistic & undesirable views regarding marriage with increased justifications of infidelity.

2)Neglected boy child;

In my book ‘Man Up or the Women Will’, I’ve clearly stipulated that the boy child is confused & forgotten. And why’s that? It’s because so much emphasis has been placed on the girl child to a point of forgetting & neglecting the boy child. What unfolds is that the boy child lives in uncertainty & insecurity as to what a man ought to be & his do’s & don’ts of treating a lady. So should we blame the boy child for arriving at his misconceived conclusions?

Results on the ground: Sharp rise in gay men, immature men, insecure men, violent men, irresponsible men & unfaithful men.

3)Confused girl child;

The same woman that’s supposed to be guarded & provided for is the same woman that disrespects her man. The same woman that wants gender equality is the same woman that can’t fix her car tire… the same woman that wants to be loved by her faithful husband is the same woman that treats him like a stranger by using the ‘feminism shield’ to argue out her cases against her lover & her best friend.

Results on the ground: Disrespect of husbands & dethroning of the man as head of the household based on her ability to provide more… please read this briefly before proceeding.

4)Lack of clear-cut boundaries regarding feminism;

Feminism was initially invented for work related issues. But then when it was extended into marriage, things went awry!
In any case, I thought marriage issues are supposed to be solved by MARRIAGE COUNSELORS? Because marriage isn’t a government institution! Government is full of distrust, corruption, conspiracies & unnecessary paper work. Feminism dehumanizes marriage; making it all about RIGHTS, not LOVE… the foundation of marriage.
Love conquers all by bringing peace & harmony; factors that would put feminists out of business… literary!

Results on the ground: Just like America craves for oil, feminism craves for gender right violations!

5)Feminism lost its meaningful purpose after the early 90s…
Developed & developing nations achieved the purpose of feminism in the early 90s. Then the feminists seeing that they had nothing to do extended their poisonous & destructive tentacles into the family.

Feminism today is MOSTLY useful in ghettos & third world countries where vulnerable girls are used as sex workers in modern day slavery… the family should have never ever been touched in the first place!

In any case, if gender equality is the noble cause of feminism, then why shouldn’t men be involved?! Why is it that people are blinded by the misconception that only feminists can solve gender based issues?

It’s about time feminists were replaced by *Gender Equality Activists; UNBIASED, FAIR & USEFUL to every man, woman & child on this planet!

And with that, I declare feminism:

So let the shoe throwing, stone throwing & mockery begin!

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Why worry too much?

A lot of times we  do find ourselves caught up in that mountain of workload that frustrates us & keeps us second guessing on what results to expect. What ensues is that a myriad of fearful thoughts fills the mind as our sense of composure looses its ground. Our perception of the situation at hand become progressively pessimistic as time flies by & we feel left behind. Our senses of fear & worry spike up as we stay on our toes, expecting the worst but still hoping for a positive outcome. We then act like supermen by trying to juggle & multitask complex processes at the same time… irrationality gets hold of our minds & blinds us with the illusion that worry & anxiety will propel us to finish tasks at hand in a faster & more charged up way.

However, the worry ends up making us more confused & disoriented…

So what do you do to avert this mental commotion that engulfs you when you least expect it?


Yes my friend, it’s that simple! The problem is that we overestimate our predicament to a point where our inner peace is replaced by a rebellious sense of uneasiness… & so you think; “Oh my goodness! I need to do this & this & that right now…” it’s just like playing a game of chess & your enemy takes down the queen; then you start getting nervous & before you know it, it’s check mate! But you’ve got to learn to look for that sense of inner peace in the midst of a raging storm. Yes, the the situation is critical… but still… you’ve got to take that deep fresh breath of air, sit back, & just let the relaxation set in like a smooth flowing river.

Take your time!

Don’t rush… because its better to relax & utilize the remaining time wisely than waste it running here & there only to achieve nothing in the end. Imagine yourself in a room with a hidden bomb & you’re locked in that room. Your task is to find that bomb somewhere within the walls in the next 60 seconds… or else you die. Will you take your time to listen for any ticking sounds or will you start screaming for help like a mad man? Because you might be in the middle of the Sahara desert! So take you time… but don’t forget to…

Strategize ahead!

It would be pointless for you to relax, take your time & wait for the worst to happen. You’ve still got a chance to redeem yourself… but that requires  a PLAN! It will begin by a brief session of brainstorming; letting ideas flow as they please. From then, you narrow down the ideas to the most useful & applicable at the moment. Then finally, use those ideas as building blocks for your plan…

Remember, you’ve got to do all the above in a span of seconds because emergencies wait for no man.

Man up or the Women Will-THE OFFICIAL BOOK LAUNCH.

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Hope in the face of Despair.

Many times we do find ourselves dangling at the edge of a cliff; friendships on a downward spiral, unsuccessful relationships, debts at an all time high, financial droughts year after year, opportunity after opportunity passing us by, fruitless efforts… the list goes on & on. The point where our dignity is at stake & life seems only unfair to us as the undeserving spoilt brats get to live a smooth life & get what they want, when they want…

These are the moments of despair… moments that make time to slow down as the pangs of pain seem to be elevated & exaggerated beyond our prior experiences. And with each passing day, one tends to wonder whether he/she was born to suffer; & whether destiny had a grudge with them before conception. Do problems discriminate? Do they have an invisible source lurking somewhere? That’s a question for another day…

But for now, lets focus on your one on one encounter with problems. What do you need to withstand them?



Left, right & center, they’ll keep on coming. In fact, the more you progress in life, the more the challenges arise & sometimes they do come in humongous, complicated packages. It’s said that if you can’t take the heat, then you should get out of the kitchen; because it’s in the kitchen that the pressure keeps on getting higher & higher with every meal you cook. And the more experience you gain, the higher you go in terms of cooking more complex foods. However, it’s not always smooth sailing since you’ll mess up here & there as the heat & pressure keeps piling up & despair sets in. In fact, the mistakes you make may grow with every elevation you make! Such situations require a formidable mindset fortress that can offer the needed attitude back-up in case worst comes to worst! It definitely doesn’t come easy & it will require discipline to sieve out negative meditations that make you lag behind!


You’ve got to be willing to go through your challenges & realize that pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work. Learn to convert moments of despair into moments of ‘a step closer to victory’ by meditating on thoughts that propel you to keep pushing on! Don’t back out because sometimes it’s not about whether you can push the rock… it’s the will that counts. Just like in the gym when you find yourself lifting a weight that seemed impossible to lift, yet your will pushed you to do the seemingly impossible!


There are moments of despair that are so hurtful, it feels like a dagger has been pierced through the heart especially when you dedicate you heart, soul & mind to accomplish a certain task. One is then left wondering as to whether it’s worth the risk to go higher. It’s said that once bitten, twice shy. But have you ever thought of not letting the hurt get to your heart? You’ve got to learn to guard your heart from unkind & ruthless surprises that may dampen your spirit & tempt you to throw in the towel… only to realize later on that you were ‘this close’ to finishing your sentence in the problems prison.

It’s these three tenets of strength in moments of despair that will give you hope, because your mind is like;

“When I get there, I’ll forget that I was in despair in the first place!’

You made me do it you fool!

Everybody is responsible for his/her own actions, but when it comes to owning up to our mistakes, then that virtue become a task too difficult to deliver. Like when we feel that the mistake was triggered by someone that enraged us; this occurs especially when we’re tired & frustrated… when we don’t want to interact with anyone at all because we know that we’ll end up engaging in another argument. I’ve personally experienced two kinds of arguments; the ones that involve a controlled sense of rage & both parties are acting as complimentary thinkers. Unfortunately, most of the times I find myself caught up in arguments that simply don’t make sense!

 Such arguments can get really ugly at times… like when physical violence becomes a tempting option. But I do believe in preparing  in advance before you’re caught up by such a rude surprise. These pointers may help you in case you’re ever caught off-guard again;

You’re not a puppet of your emotions.

Anger can be controlling; particularly at that point when you feel like you’re about to explode. In fact,when you’re angry, you feel like control is slipping away as composure is gradually displaced with a sense of uneasiness & emotional anarchy. Because your concious mind looses it’s sense of the surrounding & focuses squarely on the supposed opponent.It then progresses from a reasoning session to a competing session & the only thing that’s on your mind is how to pin your foe down. From then on, the argument loses its meaning & a verbal fight ensues!

Getting physical ain’t cool.

In as much as you’re charged up to deliver that blow on someone, you should be steady enough not to make that mistake. Remember, both of you have lost your sense of composure & the verbal fight is turning out to be an ‘operation fire for fire’! So you can imagine what will ensue if you deliver that first blow, or slap for that matter!

Pent up energy needs an exhaust pipe!

Anger, just like lust, makes us get this humongous energy from nowhere… & the problem is that this energy builds up in this bubble of rage, gaining pressure with time to a point that it’s about to explode. For me, It’s taking deep breaths, pausing for a moment & gazing at my nemesis that makes me have that chance to cool down… then I later on go for swimming or cycling & use that pent up energy responsibly instead of wasting it destructively. For others, it may be a punching bag… How would you do it? I’ll leave that for you to figure out…

The less you talk, the better for you!

It won’t be a surprise that you’ll come across fools; & by fools I mean people who just want to argue with you because they find fun in simply making you angry. Or at times it may be someone who’s jealous of your achievements, status or maturity & has no other way of expressing that envy other than pissing you off. You’ll sense them in the middle of the argument… especially when they raise up irrelevant points that are contrary to the basis of the argument. It’s at this point that you should talk less as the argument progresses… always remember;

Whoever argues with a fool becomes a fool himself! Try as much as possible to avoid heated arguments at all times…

“I hate relationships…” yours truly [single by choice].

The world today is full of lies & deceit & as time goes by, it becomes harder to get someone you can trust with your heart, soul & mind… love has become a misused term since the first thing that comes to mind when you think of love is sex. And that’s why this article in particular addresses men & women in equal measure. Single-hood quotes of bitterness are strewn all over the internet & yet we find ourselves dancing to the bitter tune when we have grudges with our spouses… or when we have grudges with the opposite sex in general…

So, if you’re single & then, it’s time for some soul searching with these hard questions;

1)Are you part of the solution or the problem?

How do you interact with strangers of the opposite sex at the work place, in events or in places of worship? Do you have boundaries or do you just find yourself flirting even before you’ve become acquainted with the person at hand. How do you chat with strangers on social networking sites? Are you sexually provocative in the way you dress, talk & present yourself in public? Because sex requires as much discretion as your nakedness… maybe it’s about time to start treating people around you as family… men as brothers & women as sisters. If you treat everyone as your lover, then you’re likely to appear easy, promiscuous & untrustworthy. Make sure you read this[Ugly Betty-The perfect woman in disguise! ] after you’re done with this article…

2)Do people perceive you in a way that you do not intend them to?

The people around you are partly attributed to the image you portray. As they say, birds of a feather flock together… promiscuous folk meeting in clubs;but it isn’t always that way. Sometimes it’s about opposite poles attracting; just like con artists love naive people that are ready for any get-rich-quick schemes that come by. So if you’re a lady & you’re always wondering why the wrong kind of men approach you, then you really need to check on your image… on the ground & online.

3)Who wrecked your character?

Good friends that stick to you through the tough times are hard to come by these days & it’s because we’ve compromised on character. We’ve let people with questionable characters infect us with bitterness & rage because they took advantage of our kindness, trust & vulnerability to a point where you find yourself in a state of confusion… because someone misled you & you lost yourself. Your male friend told you that women are gold diggers, or your female friends told you that men are dogs by nature… & you find yourself hurting & chasing away the good guys when you treat them as such.The former compassionate, kind-hearted,  loving & caring person has been replaced by this present ‘you’ that’s so anti-social & lonely; the person that wishes to go back to the former self… when life was happy & meaningful.

4)What/Whom do you expose yourself to?

This world is full of dangerous people & places that you shouldn’t be found. There is that limit you should instill in your life as pertains to how far you should go when it comes to mingling with people, or pleasing people, or even reaching out for that matter.  And I’m speaking from experience. I once had a friend whom I cared about… yet he just liked doing things to hurt me. It was like he was pure evil & he loved it. I’ve got another guy whom up to this day has blatantly refused to pay my debt for about half a year… & I always end up cursing the day I met such people, because I shouldn’t have met them in they first place.

5)Are you real or are you a stereotype?

Pretence must be the hardest thing to stick to. Especially when you embrace it as a way of life. Stop living a lie with the fear of losing friends & not impressing people… it’s emotionally taxing & depressing because your life is not real, your friends aren’t real… & the list goes on & on!

And last but not least!

6)Do you have foundational principles to stick to?

What are your foundational principles for being single? Is it because you’re angry? Or depressed? Or enraged? Or bitter? Because those aren’t principles… those are excuses. Give your life a meaning by doing things for a real reason… & stop being melodramatic all the time. It will only pile up your misery… being single isn’t bad, but you’ve got to have good reasons for being there.

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“But I thought you forgave me?”

Many relationships do have secret grudges that keep on re-surfacing now & then; a past full of bitter memories that evoke a thirst for vengeance.

The guilty one is usually on his/her toes as the innocent spouse points a conscious accusing finger at the supposed culprit.

Guilt eats up the sinner so long as the sin keeps bugging in the subconscious; it’s like it won’t let go! So what if an argument ensues & past mistakes are brought up? And this happens over & over again…

But the question still remains; is the bringing up of the past mistakes really justified?Or should we go back to the time when you pledged forgiveness for the crime committed? Did you finish the job when it came to forgiving the accused?

Then I would recommend these pointers to help you check on that;

1)Did you microwave your forgiveness?


Because this is the biggest mistake people make; letting the words come out before checking on whether the deal is done in their hearts.

“C’mon… don’t worry, it’s cool; I forgive you!”

And then later on you feel this sense of doubt because you never let reality set in. No wonder you always find yourself bringing the grudge up over & over again.

2)Why forget?

"Forgiveness 3" by Carlos Latuff.

One thing I do know for sure about forgetting is that it heals; of course it doesn’t come easy & it can’t be microwaved. It’s a psychological & emotional phenomenon that entails mending the wounds inflicted during. Like when your mom spanked you in the evening when you were a kid… you must have gone to sleep with a bitter heart & a grudge… but sleep washed the bitterness away. And before you realized what was happening, the next day, your mom was having a good conversation with you… & why’s that?

Because forgetting heals!

2)What does moving on mean to you?

Mussolini (left) and Hitler sent their armies ...

Germany & Britain had a very fierce battle during World War 2 yet they’re presently good allies. The United States bombed Hiroshima in the past yet Japan is a very good ally. These are results of moving on. When one moves on, it means…

Bye bye! I never want to see you again…” and not the kind of moving on we’ve become accustomed to;

“Bye bye! But just in case ABCD happens… then I’m definitely coming back!”

Do I even need to explain further?

3)Put yourself in the shoes of the accused.

"Forgiveness 7" by Carlos Latuff.

Forgiveness is an aspect of love; it’s literary putting yourself in the shoes of the accused & saying; “I understand that your plea is sincere… & if I was in your position, I would also like to be forgiven.” Then ask yourself if you would like 50% or 30% or 20% forgiveness. If you don’t learn to do this, the your heart is condemned to a lifetime of  bitterness…

and finally!

4)Work as a team.

Two are better than one & there’s strength in unity. In any case , I’ve come to learn that arch rivals can make best of friends & that forgiveness… "Forgiveness" by Carlos Latuff.

is the language of love to your enemy.

For now, I’ll leave you with the words of Papa Roach;

“I tear my heart open, I sew myself shut
My weakness is that I care too much
And my scars remind me that the past is real
I tear my heart open just to feel…” -Scars

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