10 reasons why Feminism should be banned! (Part 1)


I’m going to be brief, precise & straight to the point here because this article is result oriented; & by that I mean RESULTS ON THE GROUND. See, it doesn’t matter whether the government pledged to create a million jobs, so long as it creates only a thousand, then those are the results people will focus on!
Because in the end, only a thousand people will be employed & not what the pledge dictated!
So let no feminist out there come to educate me about the initial purpose of feminism… I already know the details & quite frankly, they’re outdated as depicted by the results on the ground such as:

1)Escalation in gender polarisation;

Behind all the public smiles, hugs & handshakes are men & women that secretly hate each other. Marriages are on a downward spiral as divorce & infidelity thrives; why? Because marriage is a symbol of gender peace & harmony whereas divorce & infidelity are mutual symbols of gender anarchy & war. And I do hope that you’re taking keen note of the words SECRET HATRED; meaning concealed/hidden/camouflaged.

Results on the ground: Self denial, Escalating distrust in dates, relationships & marriage & Pessimistic & undesirable views regarding marriage with increased justifications of infidelity.

2)Neglected boy child;

In my book ‘Man Up or the Women Will’, I’ve clearly stipulated that the boy child is confused & forgotten. And why’s that? It’s because so much emphasis has been placed on the girl child to a point of forgetting & neglecting the boy child. What unfolds is that the boy child lives in uncertainty & insecurity as to what a man ought to be & his do’s & don’ts of treating a lady. So should we blame the boy child for arriving at his misconceived conclusions?

Results on the ground: Sharp rise in gay men, immature men, insecure men, violent men, irresponsible men & unfaithful men.

3)Confused girl child;

The same woman that’s supposed to be guarded & provided for is the same woman that disrespects her man. The same woman that wants gender equality is the same woman that can’t fix her car tire… the same woman that wants to be loved by her faithful husband is the same woman that treats him like a stranger by using the ‘feminism shield’ to argue out her cases against her lover & her best friend.

Results on the ground: Disrespect of husbands & dethroning of the man as head of the household based on her ability to provide more… please read this briefly before proceeding.

4)Lack of clear-cut boundaries regarding feminism;

Feminism was initially invented for work related issues. But then when it was extended into marriage, things went awry!
In any case, I thought marriage issues are supposed to be solved by MARRIAGE COUNSELORS? Because marriage isn’t a government institution! Government is full of distrust, corruption, conspiracies & unnecessary paper work. Feminism dehumanizes marriage; making it all about RIGHTS, not LOVE… the foundation of marriage.
Love conquers all by bringing peace & harmony; factors that would put feminists out of business… literary!

Results on the ground: Just like America craves for oil, feminism craves for gender right violations!

5)Feminism lost its meaningful purpose after the early 90s…
Developed & developing nations achieved the purpose of feminism in the early 90s. Then the feminists seeing that they had nothing to do extended their poisonous & destructive tentacles into the family.

Feminism today is MOSTLY useful in ghettos & third world countries where vulnerable girls are used as sex workers in modern day slavery… the family should have never ever been touched in the first place!

In any case, if gender equality is the noble cause of feminism, then why shouldn’t men be involved?! Why is it that people are blinded by the misconception that only feminists can solve gender based issues?

It’s about time feminists were replaced by *Gender Equality Activists; UNBIASED, FAIR & USEFUL to every man, woman & child on this planet!

And with that, I declare feminism:

So let the shoe throwing, stone throwing & mockery begin!

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The Feminine vs The Feminists


The first woman I ever interacted with was my mother; loving, kind hearted, caring & patient with my flaws & imperfections. And it shouldn’t surprise you when I say that this is also the last woman I would like to end up with; of course not my mother… but someone close to that.
And that my friends is feminine.
She’ll cook nicely for you & pamper you with love & affection.
Now, if you’re a woman & you think that this is impossible, then you’ guilty of being a feminist. Because feminists think that if they pamper a guy like that, he’ll end up being a spoilt brat! But hey! Here are some few pointers for you…

1)I never told you to end up with the bad guys!
I don’t know what it is with ‘liberated women’ who think that they can defy nature & get away with it! So they decide hey!
‘As long as he’s good looking, why should I worry?’
Because I can guarantee you that most ‘hot’ guys are just bad guys that don’t care whether they’re pampered with love & affection or not. They just love making women who worship them feel less of themselves… & then these hurt women become feminists & they conclude that men are dogs… so let me rephrase that;

3)Be Real!
Yes ladies… oh sorry… I mean feminists. Why do you let the media get to your head? Do you live in Hollywood or something? Or are you just too obssessed with being a perfectionist? First of all, be yourself & second of all, stop thinking that it’s the billionaire status that will make you happy… or that marrying an ‘usher’ is the only way to have a great sex life. Stop being a barbie & start acting like a woman if you want to be treated like one. Spend less time on make-up & social networking & find some time to learn culinary skills & stuff that make a woman A REAL WOMAN! It’s women who behave like naive little girls & wannabes that just want to control men for no substantial reason! If you don’t know how to treat & keep a man, then just stay a feminist…

3) Stop with the hating & start with the appreciating.
If only feminists would stop with all these ‘act like a woman, think like a man’ innuendos, then the world would be a better place. But today, it’s common to stand in the midst of women & feel like you’re surrounded by men! Enough already with the gender equality debate! Because it’s this debate that has carried away women for so long to a point of filling their minds with hatred against men…
You can hate the jerks, I second you on that! But please, I’m a gentleman… let’s work as a team! You learn how to handle me & I’ll learn to handle a lady like you… appreciation through complementing, not hating through competing.

And in the end, peace & harmony reigns, just like it was mean’t to be!

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Man up or the Women Will-THE OFFICIAL BOOK LAUNCH.

First of all let me say how grateful I am to all those who’ve been following my blog!

Kudos to that!

Anyhow, this isn’t a farewell party but it’s the celebration of the birth of a new born baby!

Yes My friends, it’s the masterpiece I’ve been working on for the last 18months!

And you get the chance to sample my writing delicacy by downloading the introductory part of this book for free!

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Hope in the face of Despair.

Many times we do find ourselves dangling at the edge of a cliff; friendships on a downward spiral, unsuccessful relationships, debts at an all time high, financial droughts year after year, opportunity after opportunity passing us by, fruitless efforts… the list goes on & on. The point where our dignity is at stake & life seems only unfair to us as the undeserving spoilt brats get to live a smooth life & get what they want, when they want…

These are the moments of despair… moments that make time to slow down as the pangs of pain seem to be elevated & exaggerated beyond our prior experiences. And with each passing day, one tends to wonder whether he/she was born to suffer; & whether destiny had a grudge with them before conception. Do problems discriminate? Do they have an invisible source lurking somewhere? That’s a question for another day…

But for now, lets focus on your one on one encounter with problems. What do you need to withstand them?



Left, right & center, they’ll keep on coming. In fact, the more you progress in life, the more the challenges arise & sometimes they do come in humongous, complicated packages. It’s said that if you can’t take the heat, then you should get out of the kitchen; because it’s in the kitchen that the pressure keeps on getting higher & higher with every meal you cook. And the more experience you gain, the higher you go in terms of cooking more complex foods. However, it’s not always smooth sailing since you’ll mess up here & there as the heat & pressure keeps piling up & despair sets in. In fact, the mistakes you make may grow with every elevation you make! Such situations require a formidable mindset fortress that can offer the needed attitude back-up in case worst comes to worst! It definitely doesn’t come easy & it will require discipline to sieve out negative meditations that make you lag behind!


You’ve got to be willing to go through your challenges & realize that pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work. Learn to convert moments of despair into moments of ‘a step closer to victory’ by meditating on thoughts that propel you to keep pushing on! Don’t back out because sometimes it’s not about whether you can push the rock… it’s the will that counts. Just like in the gym when you find yourself lifting a weight that seemed impossible to lift, yet your will pushed you to do the seemingly impossible!


There are moments of despair that are so hurtful, it feels like a dagger has been pierced through the heart especially when you dedicate you heart, soul & mind to accomplish a certain task. One is then left wondering as to whether it’s worth the risk to go higher. It’s said that once bitten, twice shy. But have you ever thought of not letting the hurt get to your heart? You’ve got to learn to guard your heart from unkind & ruthless surprises that may dampen your spirit & tempt you to throw in the towel… only to realize later on that you were ‘this close’ to finishing your sentence in the problems prison.

It’s these three tenets of strength in moments of despair that will give you hope, because your mind is like;

“When I get there, I’ll forget that I was in despair in the first place!’

“I hate relationships…” yours truly [single by choice].

The world today is full of lies & deceit & as time goes by, it becomes harder to get someone you can trust with your heart, soul & mind… love has become a misused term since the first thing that comes to mind when you think of love is sex. And that’s why this article in particular addresses men & women in equal measure. Single-hood quotes of bitterness are strewn all over the internet & yet we find ourselves dancing to the bitter tune when we have grudges with our spouses… or when we have grudges with the opposite sex in general…

So, if you’re single & then, it’s time for some soul searching with these hard questions;

1)Are you part of the solution or the problem?

How do you interact with strangers of the opposite sex at the work place, in events or in places of worship? Do you have boundaries or do you just find yourself flirting even before you’ve become acquainted with the person at hand. How do you chat with strangers on social networking sites? Are you sexually provocative in the way you dress, talk & present yourself in public? Because sex requires as much discretion as your nakedness… maybe it’s about time to start treating people around you as family… men as brothers & women as sisters. If you treat everyone as your lover, then you’re likely to appear easy, promiscuous & untrustworthy. Make sure you read this[Ugly Betty-The perfect woman in disguise! ] after you’re done with this article…

2)Do people perceive you in a way that you do not intend them to?

The people around you are partly attributed to the image you portray. As they say, birds of a feather flock together… promiscuous folk meeting in clubs;but it isn’t always that way. Sometimes it’s about opposite poles attracting; just like con artists love naive people that are ready for any get-rich-quick schemes that come by. So if you’re a lady & you’re always wondering why the wrong kind of men approach you, then you really need to check on your image… on the ground & online.

3)Who wrecked your character?

Good friends that stick to you through the tough times are hard to come by these days & it’s because we’ve compromised on character. We’ve let people with questionable characters infect us with bitterness & rage because they took advantage of our kindness, trust & vulnerability to a point where you find yourself in a state of confusion… because someone misled you & you lost yourself. Your male friend told you that women are gold diggers, or your female friends told you that men are dogs by nature… & you find yourself hurting & chasing away the good guys when you treat them as such.The former compassionate, kind-hearted,  loving & caring person has been replaced by this present ‘you’ that’s so anti-social & lonely; the person that wishes to go back to the former self… when life was happy & meaningful.

4)What/Whom do you expose yourself to?

This world is full of dangerous people & places that you shouldn’t be found. There is that limit you should instill in your life as pertains to how far you should go when it comes to mingling with people, or pleasing people, or even reaching out for that matter.  And I’m speaking from experience. I once had a friend whom I cared about… yet he just liked doing things to hurt me. It was like he was pure evil & he loved it. I’ve got another guy whom up to this day has blatantly refused to pay my debt for about half a year… & I always end up cursing the day I met such people, because I shouldn’t have met them in they first place.

5)Are you real or are you a stereotype?

Pretence must be the hardest thing to stick to. Especially when you embrace it as a way of life. Stop living a lie with the fear of losing friends & not impressing people… it’s emotionally taxing & depressing because your life is not real, your friends aren’t real… & the list goes on & on!

And last but not least!

6)Do you have foundational principles to stick to?

What are your foundational principles for being single? Is it because you’re angry? Or depressed? Or enraged? Or bitter? Because those aren’t principles… those are excuses. Give your life a meaning by doing things for a real reason… & stop being melodramatic all the time. It will only pile up your misery… being single isn’t bad, but you’ve got to have good reasons for being there.

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Warning!Resolution Breach is Currently Being Processed!

Every 31st of December presents that cherished privilege to celebrate the 365day event referred to as a year; wild parties & family get-togethers are the order of the day as loved ones reminisce the past year & look into the future with renewed optimism. And with the optimism comes the urge to make resolutions.

However, what baffles me about resolutions is the angelic impression portrayed in them considering the questionable characters of the authors. It then doesn’t come as a surprise that at least 90% of the global population doesn’t fulfill its resolutions by the end of the year…

But resolutions aren’t just made at the beginning of the year; people make resolutions everyday yet they get carried away by the worries of life before they know it!

All this can be attributed to a work-in-progress… or a crime-in progress so to speak. A chronic resolution breach that has been going on for ages. The reason why we’ve not noticed it is because of it’s camouflaged state. It’s been happening right in front of us yet we’ve not been seeing it for the following reasons;

1)Self Denial;

No problem can be solved by denying its existence considering the fact that resolutions are pre-planned solutions to anticipated & existing problems. It thus wouldn’t make sense to recommend a drug prescription to a sick person that denies his problem because he’s likely to skip his medication.


The self-drive to keep on moving despite the obstacles along the way matters a great deal when it comes to fulfilling resolution goals. Indiscipline will prompt you to quit even before the journey begins.

3)Consistent Inconsistency;

You may have developed a bad reputation of consistently breaching resolution after resolution after resolution… this may be attributed to inconsistency in maintaining your zeal. A journey without a constant speed is likely to be substituted for another; & I’m sure you didn’t learn that today.


You may be the kind of person that has failed over & over again to a point where your mind is overburdened with pessimism… & by the time you’re close to the finish line, you find a sign post that reads;

“Dead end; impossibility confirmed… as usual!”

& last but not least;

5)Self doubt;

Do your conversations always begin with;

“If only I had this & that…”

Because if you don’t believe in yourself, then no one will believe in you.

Who knows?

Maybe it’s the self doubt that’s preventing your resolutions from flying…

You call yourself a nice guy; I call you a toothless dog!

Once upon a time, not so long ago…
I used to be a nice guy;


Until someone decided to take adavntage of my kindness.
Not once…


Not twice…


But numerous times!


Apparently, my kindness was perceived as weakness.
Of course I felt guilty if I was ever bad because I was raised up by religious parents;


A caring, down to earth father & a principled mom;
However, the world wasn’t that kind to me… yet I was working so hard to make it a better place… & the harder I tried, the more wounds I got;


Physical, emotional & psychological…
Then I decided that enough was enough!


I was done with being Mr. Nice guy…
But that didn’t mean that I would become a bad guy…
On the contrary, I became a smart guy;


I figured that unlike a nice guy or a bad guy, a smart guy knows how to strike a balance by acknowledging that…


1)Tit for tat sometimes is a very fair game!
Why should you get pushed over & over again & do nothing about it? This world has no room for chronic push overs! So quit being one; thrice is enough… the perfect ultimatum!


2)Let the bully have a taste of his/her own medicine;
Why doesn’t your enemy understand that you don’t like it?
Have you ever thought that maybe he’s yet to experience it? And what better way to do that than letting him sample his own product?


3)Quiters never win;
Even though you’re too weak/you refuse to execute your own vengeance, always remember that there’s an option…
The future… vengeance is a dish best served cold remember?
Plus, you’re likely to be stronger than your opponent…
Tables do turn & bullies do beg their victims for help…
I’ve personally witnessed that!
Don’t ask how…


4)There are limits;
Do not go to extremes when executing your vengeance. Always be on guard. The law still exists… the only place where it doesn’t exist is in hell.
When it comes to making such decisions, one needs back them up with very good reasons… concrete principles would really help.

So Mr. ‘Toothless dog’… don’t forget!


No more Mr. Nice guy!